Making friends as adults is hard. When you’re a kid, it’s cake. “You like Thomas the Train? So do I! Best buds forever! You’ll share your graham crackers with me? We are now bonded for eternity!”
With adults, it’s a little more complicated. Specifically, making friends as couples or families.
Where my qualifiers for a friend used to be:
a) Will you wear obscene amounts of eye make-up with me? (Lisa?:)
b) Are you comfortable spending 75% of our waking hours at Starbucks, “studying”? (Lisa?:) Side note: if at the time I had known how many calories were in a venti iced white mocha, I’m certain I wouldn’t have gained my “freshman 15″…
c) Do you like the show “Friends”?(Lisa?:)
Now? With a husband and 2 kids? Here are the qualifiers:
a) Do you have children who are either close to the age of my children OR who are old enough to think my kids are cute and want to play with them?
b) Does my husband have anything to talk to your husband about? Bonus points if your husband likes football. Super bonus points if he likes the Cowboys.
c) Do you like the show “Friends”? (Some things never change)
We have these friends, Michael and Alicia. They made the cut. We loved them. Then they moved to Wyoming. We really miss them a lot:(
Alicia is an awesome cook. She makes these fruit and oat bars that sound healthy but are the exact opposite. They are, however, the most amazing thing you’ll ever put in your mouth.
We call them “Alicia bars”.
Before the bake
After the bake
My heart hurts, these are so good. We took them to some other friend’s house (they have a 4 year old, a 1 year old and the husband likes football- although rival teams. Close enough.) and they helped us eat them.
Thanks, Alicia, for an awesome recipe!
P.S. Move back to Portland
(Now let’s hope we’re still friends after I’ve shared her recipe with the world…)
2 C oats (quick or regular)
1 C flour
1/2 -3/4 C melted butter (I used Earth Balance)
1/3 C brown sugar
1/3 C chopped nuts (I usually use pecans)
1/2 tsp salt (optional)
1/2 tsp baking soda
8-10 oz jam or jelly (any flavor)
Heat oven to 350, grease an 11×7″ glass dish. Combine all ingredients except the jam, mix well. Reserve approx. 3/4 C oat mix; press remaining onto bottom of dish, bake 10 mins. Spread jam evenly on “crust”, to within 1/2″ of the edge. Sprinkle w/ reserved oat mix. Bake 20-22 mins. Cool, cut into 15 bars.